Question: Hi! First of all, I'd like to say that I love this website. It's been truly informative. Even my boyfriend enjoys it. : )
For a bit of background, I'm 16, and have been masturbating to orgasm at least since I was 8, possibly younger. I can only masturbate to orgasm with my clitoris. For some reason, I can't stimulate my own G-Spot.
On the other hand, I have a difficult time reaching orgasm through clitoral stimulation with a partner (usually only oral works, and sometimes not even that), but have fast, multiple orgasms when my G-Spot is stimulated.
Is there any kind of reason for that?
Another question!
When I masturbate, there is a very definite building, orgasm, and drop.
But when I'm with a partner, I stay as a constant, high level of arousal, experience a quick orgasm, and leap right back up to that high level of arousal. The whole experience seems to blend together. But I know I'm experiencing orgasm, because I can feel my muscles pulsing as they do after I orgasm, and I also get tension headaches if I get highly aroused and don't orgasm. So I'd know if I weren't. Plus, it just feels fantastic.
At the risk of sounding cliché, is this normal?
I just wonder why what I experience with a partner and what I experience when I masturbate are so incredibly different. I'm happy and orgasmic with both of them, but I don't understand why they are so opposite each other.Answer: Welcome to the wonders and mysteries of sex.
Your experiences do not sound unusual or unexpected. There are many possible reasons why your solo and partnered sexual experiences as so different from one another.
You must consider the physical and mental aspects of these two activities. How your mind processes stimulation during these activities will differ, and as a result your physical responses and experiences. Some activities will be more comfortable or arousing for you on a mental level than others. The more comfortable you are the more relaxed and aware of your body you may be. The more sexually aroused you are the more sensitive to sexual stimulation you may be. During partnered sex there is the likelihood of increased mental and physical stimulation that only a partner can provide.When masturbating alone in a quiet room you are likely more aware of the changes in your body and of your experience of arousal and orgasm. You are also a lot more experienced when it comes to masturbation than you are with partnered sex. Experience may have taught you more about how you body responds to masturbation, and you are in control of your body while masturbating. Masturbation allows you to explore your sexual responses more easily and at your own pace. During masturbation you are more likely to stay within your comfort zone, and do not attempt new things, resulting in less physical and mental stimulation compared to what may be possible during partnered sex. While masturbation may have a greater likelihood of resulting in orgasm, partnered sex may result in greater mental and physical stimulation, even if orgasm doesn't occur.
During partnered sex very little is the same, mentally and physically. There are more distractions but also the likelihood of greater physical and mental stimulation. You are young and sex may be extremely exciting simply because you are experiencing it, especially if you fear being caught. The physical responses associated with the nonsexual aspects of the sexual experience may aid or impair your sexual responses and experiences. Your partner may incite a high degree of arousal, which carries you from one orgasm to the next without the resolution phase you experience while masturbating, or the resolution phase is significantly shortened. Another's touch is usually more stimulating than our own, as demonstrated by the fact that we cannot tickle ourselves.
On a physical level the type of stimulation provided by and the skillfulness of your partner become factors to consider. Since the clitoris is often exquisitely sensitive it takes skill and finesse to stimulate it correctly; something you have mastered through years of masturbation. Your partner on the other hand likely has neither the experience or skill you do. Add in the additional distractions that occur during partnered sex and clitoral stimulation may not be as efficient at producing orgasm as it is during masturbation. Your partner's fingers may be too rough, lack the same rhythm, or they tire before your own would. The extra stimulation provided by someone else's touch may prove to be too much for your mind and body to handle; the thin line between pain and pleasure is easily crossed. The softness and wetness of his tongue may overcome these hurdles, but any feelings of apprehension you may have about your scent and taste at the time, or his lack of stamina or consistency, may present a barrier to orgasm, as can worrying about whether you will experience orgasm.
Our physical responses and perceptions are influenced by the physical changes that occur in our body during sex. The more sexually aroused we become the more we are under the influence of the chemicals of sex. We may even become euphoric and less sensitive to pain. During partnered sex the level of arousal your partner's presence causes will influence your level of enjoyment and the types of sexual responses you experience and your perception of them. The possible presence and influence of pheromones would ensure partnered sexual experiences would be different from your solo experiences.
Since you are more aroused during partnered sex your G-Spot may be more engorged and sensitive to stimulation than when you masturbate alone. The location of your G-Spot may dictate that your partner will find it easier to stimulate, at least without the aid of a suitable object for vaginal insertion and stimulation. Firm and vigorous stimulation of your G-Spot may be more beneficial than would be the same if it were applied to your clitoris. The nerves of the G-Spot are different from those that supply the clitoris and connect to different parts of the spinal cord and brain. The mental stimulation that results from stimulation of the G-Spot is thought to be different from and result in different responses than does clitoral stimulation. Clitoral and G-Spot stimulation are two totally different types of sexual stimulation with their own associated physical and mental responses, or so a growing body of evidence would appear to indicate. G-Spot stimulation may even result in strong emotional responses like crying, and may result in different orgasmic responses, perhaps sustained orgasms; that is orgasms that blend together rather than being individual orgasms that occur one after another. You may also experience physical sensations that are similar to but different from those experienced during orgasm, but more intense.
When you are able to acquire a suitably shaped dildo you may be able to stimulate your own G-Spot, if your fingers are not long enough to reach it or the angles don't work for you. Many of the dildos created from Pyrex, a super hard and break resistant type of glass, have the the necessary shape and firmness necessary for G-Spot stimulation.
Whether you experience orgasm may be influenced by your comfort level with the given activity. You may be a lot more comfortable with his fingers in your vagina than with his mouth against your vulva. Many women do not experience orgasm during intercourse, or do so infrequently, for a combination of reasons. For you, rear entry may be more enjoyable since you enjoy G-Spot stimulation, or you can get on top and control the angle of penetration. Experimentation and practice will help you to discover what works best for you, and also what doesn't work.
Basically, whatever works for you is normal for you. The reasons why cannot always be identified, as we are unlikely to be able to monitor and analyze your sexual experiences in a laboratory to figure out the whys. Simply enjoy whatever gives you pleasure.
Be sure to use birth control and condoms as a barrier against the spread of sexually transmitted infections (STIs).
Question: I was wondering if it is normal for the vagina to feel "itchy" after having sexual intercourse?
Answer: I am not a doctor so I can only provide general information not a medical diagnosis.
I would not consider this normal.Here are some things you can do to help determine a cause and if medical attention in required.
If you are using a condom, which you should be, then you could be allergic to latex. Try using condoms that are not made from latex.
If you aren't using condoms you could be allergic to his semen. If this is a possibility try using condoms to see if the itching still occurs.
If you have a vaginal infection the changes in your vaginal pH caused by sexual arousal and his ejaculate could cause a flare-up. You may need to consult a doctor.
If you are not sufficiently lubricated or are too tight you could be experiencing frictional irritation. The itching sensation could indicate the tissues and nerves have been irritated. Since the vagina is sensitive to different types of sensation than say your hand it may be more difficult to classify exactly what you are feeling. Using an appropriate lubricant should reduce the amount of friction you experience.
You could be allergic to any soap, cologne, or chemicals he applies to his body. You might rinse his penis and pelvic region with plain water prior to sex. The only things that should come in contact with your vulva and vagina is plain water, and his clean body parts.If you are using a lubricant you may be allergic to one of its ingredients. If this is a possibility try a different lubricant.
See the following pages for more information on the possible causes of vaginal irritation:
vaginitis.htm
hygiene.htm
Question: I need some advice about female circumcision. My gynecologist says I'm healthy, but my boyfriend seems to have problems with my anatomy. When we had sex for the first time, I told him that he shouldn't go for my clitoris because it's insensitive. He was very surprised to hear that.
The truth is, all the pleasure I feel comes from the area around my urethra. This area is very clearly defined, protruding, and looks almost like a second clitoris. I have very intense orgasms when it's stimulated.
My boyfriend thinks my urethra is "swollen" and he said I should learn clitoral orgasm to make the swelling disappear. He suggested I should have my clitoral hood removed to enhance the sensitivity of my clit. He insists I would be able to have "proper" orgasms afterwards, but I'm a bit afraid of the operation. What should I do?Answer: I would say you need a new boyfriend not surgery. The day he becomes a woman he can tell you how your body should work. What he has done is the equivalent of your telling him his penis is too small and he needs surgery to make it bigger. Both are inappropriate things to say, and equally untrue.
The size and sensitivity of the "Urethral Meatus" is mentioned on the page about the anatomy of the vulva linked to below: You are not alone in your anatomy or sensitivity.
vulva.htmYou should also read the page about female ejaculation and the female prostate gland linked to below:
ejacula.htmFemale circumcision is briefly mentioned on the page linked to below, under Plastic Surgery.
enhance.htmIf your boyfriend isn't willing to accept you as you are then find a new one, as there is nothing wrong with you or your sexual responses. You know what works best for you and no one has the right to say you shouldn't enjoy the things you do.
Question: I have only been having sex for the past year. I have never noticed the bumps on my urethra and in my vaginal opening before now. They are white and very small but there are a lot of them in a patch. They don't hurt but I am getting worried about them. Lately I have been having pain when my partner enters me. It almost feels like I'm a virgin all over again. He has to work it in to make sure and not hurt me to an extent that we can't have sex. After we've begun it quits hurting and we are able to please each other. Should I be concerned about either of these matters? What is wrong?
Answer: I am not a doctor so I can only provide general information not a medical diagnosis.
Pain during intercourse is not normal so there is a reason for concern. Some of the possible causes for pain during intercourse are listed on the pages about virginity linked to below:
virgin2.htm#painThis physical problem could become a psychological one that results in your being unable to participate in intercourse and sex in general if it goes untreated. You will soon learn to avoid sex rather than experience or risk experiencing pain.
If you are using the Depo Provera and other forms of birth control you may have insufficient estrogen and are experiencing Atrophic Vaginitis. See the information the health page linked to below:
health.htm#depoThe woman whose vulva is shown in the photo at the top of the page linked to below was experiencing vulvar vestibulitis. Note the non-smooth surface of the tissue around her urethra. If this is how your vulvar tissue looks please consult a doctor.
adhesio.htmHere are links to information on vulvar vestibulitis:
http://www.vulvodynia.com/http://www.aafp.org/afp/990315ap/1547.html
More links concerning "Vulvar Pain" are on the page of links linked to below:
l_q_z.htm
Question: My husband doesn't enjoy intercourse with me. He only wants oral sex. When I asked him about it, he shrugged as if to say, 'yes, I don't really like intercourse.' Then he suggested a couple of times that I use a product to tighten up my vagina. I am very hurt by this. I have had sex partners in the past and never had any complaints. If anything, when I near orgasm, I get very tight. I feel my husband when he is inside of me and it feels really good to me. What is wrong with me and why do I feel so hurt? (I do my Kegels, and everything!).
Answer: It is inappropriate for your husband and you to blame yourself for his lack of enjoyment of intercourse. Perhaps his penis is simply insensitive, at least to the stimulation experienced during intercourse. Men are just as unlikely to enjoy intercourse as women, though I am sure neither would feel comfortable admitting this publicly. Who would admit to not enjoying or wanting "sex."
I personally do not experience a lot of pleasure during intercourse, as only a small area surrounding my frenum (lower junction of the glans and shaft) is sensitive to stimulation; this is regardless of the partner or sexual activity. I have heard some claim that circumcision is the cause of decreased sensitivity in the penis, as the protective skin that covers the glans is removed and the tissues of the glans change as a result.
I would strongly advise against using any product inside the vagina, as it would likely cause irritation and result in infection.
I suspect your partner may be unwilling to accept his part in this, or needs access to relevant information. It is easier to point a finger at someone else. It is also easier to try and change someone else than ourselves.
If he prefers oral sex there is probably nothing that can be done to change that and I know other men share his experience. Some men prefer oral sex while others intercourse, and there are many possible mental and physical reasons why. The reasons why may or may not have any bearing on their sexual partner.Body position during intercourse may influence the amount of pleasure he experiences. You might try different sexual positions. If like me he needs the bottom side of his penis to rub against your vaginal wall then rear entry positions may be more pleasurable for him, but still may not result in orgasm.
If you enjoy intercourse and he can maintain an erection during this activity then perhaps he will engage in this activity for your pleasure, as it isn't necessary for him to ejaculate. Hopefully he isn't selfish and enjoys giving you pleasure just as much as you enjoy giving him pleasure. If he cannot maintain an erection because of insufficient stimulation then consider using a dildo during foreplay, or getting a dildo and harness for him wear. You BOTH may need to learn how to pleasure your partner in a way that works best for them. You don't need to experience physical pleasure at the same time for it to be a pleasurable experience.
The enjoyment or absence pleasure during intercourse is addressed on the page linked to below:
interco.htmWhile your pelvic muscles may be strong they may stimulate the shaft of his penis rather than the area of his penis that is most sensitive, the area near his penile glans. He may need to use short shallow strokes instead of full insertion and long strokes. This is so the tip of his penis is stimulated by your toned pelvic muscles, which are located nearer your vaginal opening than your cervix. You may like full insertion but he may require partial insertion. He may need to switch back and forth to provide the appropriate stimulation for both of you. If after intercourse he has not experienced orgasm you can use your mouth to bring him to orgasm.
Deborah Sundahl's book Female Ejaculation and the G-Spot mentions the idea of a woman using a peeled ripe banana as a measurement tool to determine the strength of her pelvic muscles. Deborah says a woman with good pelvic muscle strength will be able to insert the banana, enclosed in a plastic sandwich bag, into her vagina and then cut it in two using only her pelvic muscles. You might try this to see how strong your pelvic muscles are, and if they are strong enough to do this, demonstrate this to your husband. If you are doing Kegels incorrectly, perhaps tightening your abdominal muscles instead, they wont be of benefit.
I don't doubt your hurt feelings. You may feel inadequate. Women tend to receive and accept blame for everything that isn't right within a relationship. Socially there is a lot of negativity attached to the idea of a "loose woman," a woman who is too sexual, and frequent sexual intercourse is thought by many people to result in a loose vagina, rather than the true cause, lack of pelvic muscle strength. A virgin may be tight because her muscles are constantly constricted, in spasm, rather than strong.
Question: I am a healthy, sexually active, 18 yr. old male. However, I am unable to reach orgasm from oral sex. Any tips for me or my significant other you could send along would be greatly appreciated.
Answer: You are not alone. I know other men share your experience. You may not be able to relax or surrender control. It could be the stimulation is not appropriate for you, or your partner needs to improve their skill and technique. The following page has several links to information on technique:
qa_7/qa7_14.htm
They may need to use their mouth and hands in combination to provide the necessary stimulation, without causing their jaw to tire, ache, etc.
There could be a psychological barrier if you are uncomfortable with the idea of ejaculating into your partner's mouth. If you see it as demeaning of her then you wont be able to do it. Some people gain a negative perception of fellatio, oral stimulation of the penis, as a result of the way it is portrayed in some erotic videos, and how the activity is perceived by society. In many erotic videos ejaculating on the face or in the mouth of a woman is meant to be degrading of them, rather than as an expression of pleasure and intimacy. Some believe a woman is degraded or degrading of herself by permitting her sexual partner to do these things to her. Some men cannot permit their wife, the mother of their children, to perform fellatio on them but are comfortable with a prostitute doing it. A man may enjoy oral sex with a stranger more than a woman he loves for these reasons. This is a reflection of a problem within our society rather than the individual.
You might try fantasizing or role playing to get some mental stimulation going. Talk dirty to them, etc.
You might also refrain from masturbation and other sexual activities for a week or two to allow your sensitivity and desire to build so ejaculating during oral sex is more likely.
Question: For the last couple of years I've been getting vaginal tearing (like paper cuts) on the frenulum of labia during intercourse and lately even after urinating and wiping. I've never had a child so I know it cant be from that. Is there anything that can be done to prevent this? My urologist a couple years back said that it could be from my birth control pill, he said that it sometimes weakens the skin down there. Others say its because of a vitamin deficiency, and even because of wearing thong underwear too much, or even that it needs to moisturized down there. But there are times when we are having intercourse that we used a lot of lube and it still tears. I don't know what to do and sex is just not very pleasurable at all anymore. I fear that my husband is getting very frustrated because he doesn't want to hurt me while having sex, but he still has needs. I just want to know if anything could be done about this.
Answer: I am not a doctor so I can only provide general information not a medical diagnosis.
It could be the result of an estrogen deficiency. Please see the information linked to below:
health.htm#depo
Progesterone will suppress estrogen, so if your birth control pill contains it it could adversely affect the health of your vulva. The necessity of estrogen to your vulvar health is covered on the page about hygiene linked to below:
hygiene.htm
One woman was prescribed testosterone cream to treat an injury near her clitoris, at the frenum. The injury would not heal otherwise. Estrogen suppresses testosterone so estrogen in your birth control pill could adversely affect your testosterone level. Here is the link to her experience:
qa_2/qa2_18.htm
I am surprised your doctor was not more proactive to your complaint.
I highly recommend finding a solution before engaging in intercourse again. What is a medical problem will soon become a psychological problem for both of you, if it isn't already.
You might consider discontinuing the use of the birth control pill you are using now and then in a month or two try intercourse using a condom and/or another birth control method, if the doctor is unwilling to help you find a cause. In the mean time you and your partner can engage in other sexual activities like mutual masturbation and oral sex.
Your doctor should probably evaluate your hormone levels, you may have to demand the test be done.
Question: Ok... first, I'm not sure if I have a large clitoral hood, or if it's just the folds of skin above it?
Second: I like the feeling of being shaven/hairless, I really do, I don't do it for other people or to be cool or like other people or anything, but is there a better way then shaving? I'm getting really sensitive to razors.
Third: I'm sorry so many questions!
Forth: I um... *Embarrassed* I like to rub things like, cold and hard against me... like a cold mirror, the flat side of it, on the part of me right under my clit, but above my um... the place where urine comes out, it that normal??? I also like fluffy things...
Fifth: How do I talk to my boyfriend about... I mean, he's ok... but he thinks he's really good at cunnilingus... but the truth is he's not, I mean but I have nothing to compare him to! He's the only one who's ever done it, so I cant say so-and-so was better. (Of course I would never tell someone someone else was better anyways! Ouch!) But if I don't have anyone to compare it to, is it really ok for me to say he isn't good anyways??? How do I approach him if it is ok??
Thank u so much, I'm sorry for so many Questions!Answer #1): The following pages have information on the anatomy of the vulva, and photographs showing the different structures. They should help you identify your anatomy and see the natural diversity that exists.
qa_1/qa1_4.htm
v_image1.htm
#2) Shaving is the most common method of pubic hair removal. The following page gives some advice, and links you to advice from visitors to the website. Many highly recommend the use of hair conditioner instead of shaving cream.
shaving.htm
Other options are waxing and laser hair removal. Other women share your preference of not having pubic hair, and some were removing their pubic hair even when it wasn't as popular as it is now.The following links are to pages about different ways of removing pubic hair:
http://www.hair-removal-products.net/brazilian-wax.html
http://www.hairremovalforum.com/bodyhairremoval.htm
http://www.ezinearticles.com/?Laser-Hair-Removal:-Am-I-a-Good-Candidate?-What-Do-I-Need-to-Know?&id=65278
http://www.hairlasers.com/index.html
http://www.sfsi.org/answers/hairless.html
#4) If you read through the shared masturbation techniques you will find others who like using cold and ice when masturbating. The area where urine exists your body is called the "urethral meatus." Other women find this area sensitive too, sometimes more sensitive than their clitoris. This is mentioned on the page about the anatomy of the vulva linked to below:
vulva.htm
You may also want to read about female ejaculation, as related information is presented there.
ejacula.htm
#5) You might suggest he read the pages linked to below. Also use your hands and make sounds to guide him when things do feel good. You may also need to get on top, sit on his face, to control what he does. Don't tell him what he is doing wrong, tell him what he is doing right. You may need to reach down and spread your labia and retract your clitoral hood so he can find and locate your clitoris. If nothing he is doing is right then read up and make some suggestions.
howto.htm
cunnili.htm
Question one: Ok, You've said that you sometimes just FEEL like you have to pee, and I always do, right to when I start feeling like you know the "Don't stop don't stop!" feeling... but then it gets like, my body just wont let me keep going, like my arms get REALLY tired, and it actually hurts to ride my toy... *Embarrassed* I mean not my vagina, my whole body, WHY??? I get the feeling like I have to pee, right before that happened... Now on your site you've said it was normal, but I... well I've actually wet myself while masturbating... I mean it felt really good!! but... it's gross, and I wasn't in the bath tub or anything either, so I had to wash my seat cushion... *So embarrassed* What do I do? I'm afraid if I have sex with my boyfriend and it feels to good I'll pee on him!!! Should I tell him I'm worried about that? Would it gross him out and make him not want to have sex with me??
Question 2: Like I said before I get to where it feels sooo good, but then my body just stops like... moving at all! Like I have to work really hard to keep going, but eventually I cant, and it just stops feeling good, when just seconds ago it felt great!! Why? I don't understand why my body just stops moving at all, I mean, I think if I was able to keep going, I would orgasm and it would be great! But then I think if I did I'd pee too...
Question 3: I feel so bad... I mean... it's so mean to say that my boyfriend has a small penis! but he does... I don't know what to do, is it ok the think it's small? I feel mean, even if I don't say anything about it to him, thinking it makes me feel awful! I mean, he is really sexy, and gets me horny, but I mean, I do think it's small... What do I do? I mean, I can't talk to him about it!!!!! It would be so mean!!!!! And he's already done with puberty... so it's not going to get any bigger... I don't think anyways?? I have no idea what to do about it, am I wrong for thinking it's small?? I feel wrong...
Question 4: Is it ok to have sex in the bath/water?
Question 5: I hate the way condoms make me smell, but I've only had sex once. What do I do? When I went to the bathroom, my vagina smells like rubber it was really unpleasant. I just don't like it, is that ok? Should I tell my boyfriend? he wont have sex without condoms...
Question 6: I had previous... um... sexual encounters I'm not so proud of, I didn't enjoy them, I didn't like the person, I never talk to/see them now, and I regret ever meeting them. But I had sex with them 3 times, I didn't bleed the first time, (It was my first time ever) I didn't bleed the second time, but I did the third??? What's wrong with me? Isn't bleeding the first time normal? why didn't I?
Question 7: I douched today... Now I'm unreceptive to any sexual touch! I read the douching makes you um like... you can get an infection easier... what do I do??? My mom told me I had to because I was having discomfort and irritation. I tried touching myself, because I was aroused by a pop up, (Damn porn sites... -.-) but it didn't feel good at all!Question 8: Also... I'm kind of naive or dumb I guess, but what's: vulva, labia, smegma, mons and pubic mound?
I'm sorry I have so many questions...
Thank you so much!Answer #1): Grab a towel and pee, or more accurately, ejaculate. Your fear of urinating is likely the cause of your impaired orgasmic responses. You need to work on overcoming your fear of squirting, you have to want to do it if you are to do it. If you do squirt, it is easy enough to clean up afterwards, especially if you lie or sit on a towel while masturbating. You can also masturbate in the shower or bath, and use water spray to help you reach orgasm. I would tell your boyfriend that you have ejaculated in the past but are afraid he will be turned off if you do it with him, and this prevents you from experiencing orgasm with him. Many if not most guys are turned on by seeing their girlfriend or wife squirting, as they know she has experienced orgasm and pleasure. If your boyfriend is turned off by it, find a new boyfriend. You may want to have him read the page about female ejaculation.
You might need to explore stimulating your G-Spot rather than your clitoris, since you have said that you have a sensitive urethral meatus. Locate objects you can insert into your vagina to stimulate the front wall of your vagina. Also develop your pelvic muscles using Kegel exercises. Your pelvic muscle propel the fluid from your body. See the information linked to below:
virgin2.htm#kegels
#2) Try using more mental stimulation and less physical stimulation. Read some erotica, visit some sexually explicit websites, watch an adult movie, etc. Get yourself mentally aroused before providing physical stimulation. You may also need to give yourself permission to squirt, as you are holding back.
#3) If he is your first partner how do you know it is small? The size of his penis should not affect the pleasure he can give you. If you learn to control your pelvic muscles you can control the amount of friction during intercourse. If you want something bigger then I suggest you try using some dildos. He may not be happy if you enjoy something larger than his penis, but that isn't your fault. You may want to read the following page about size:
virgin2.htm#kegels
#4) The problem with sex in water is it tends to dry out the vagina, as it breaks down the natural lubrication and washes it off his penis. You can certainly do other things in the water. You can try intercourse to see if it works for you, as only experience will tell. The potential chemicals and bacteria in bodies of water could be a problem though.
#5) You might suggest non-latex condoms or ones that have flavors or scents. Another option is simply not engage in intercourse, or activities where his penis comes in contact with your vulva.
#6) Only about 50% of women experience bleeding the first time they engage in intercourse. A change in position, more vigorous thrusting, or lack of lubrication could result in the hymen tearing after the first experience of intercourse. Others have reported the same. You may also have injured yourself on that occasion, or experienced some form of menstrual spotting.
#7) Douching is harmful to your health, as it interferes with the natural workings of your vagina. Please read the following page about hygiene:
hygiene.htm
#8) Please see the pages linked to below:
vulva.htm
adhesio.htm
I hope this information helps.
Question: My boyfriend and I work in the same office; he has a private office but I don't. Anyway we see each other pretty much all day long. While we've never actually have had sex at work, we've come pretty darn close. We do get to go to my apartment after work most days though.
Here's my question ...he has a great imagination and and pretty much knows how to keep me "excited" ALL day. All he has to do is look at me and even that sets me off... I'm in and out of his office quite a few times each day, he uh well sometimes he does a little more than look!...It's impossible for my body to not respond to all this constant stimuli but I wonder if being in this "ready" state ALL day is harmful to my body in any way ? I also wonder if other people can tell?Answer: I doubt being aroused frequently would be harmful, except in the case of undesired and constant blood engorgement of the genitals, which would indicate a medical problem and can be a source of emotional distress. Your arousal is the result of consensual sexual stimulation, not a medical condition, so is not a reason for concern. Your body likely has a set physical limit to the amount of sexual response it can provide, but if you are young and in good health, you may not have a noticeable limit. In the survey on the website about sexual desire 7% of the women report they are always sexually aroused.
Others are likely aware of the dynamics of the relationship and flirting but I doubt they would be aware of your arousal, 62% percent of women report experiencing sexual arousal at work. If you are not aware of their arousal it is unlikely they would be aware of yours. I have seldom become aware of a woman being openly horny in public, they usually learn to hide it very well. Since we don't usually expect women to be so openly sexual it may be easy for them to conceal their true feelings, or they attribute them to other causes.