Question: I have a problem. My clitoris has a white bump on it and it hurts when I pee or wash my vagina, or even sit down. It's very sensitive to touch. A few days ago I had sex with my boyfriend and he had used a condom. I don't know if it's because of the latex of the condom, or when he was fingering me. But it's gotten very painful in the past couple of days. I'm afraid to go to the gynecologist for 2 reasons.........first reason is that I'm not insured and the second reason is that my mother does not know that I'm not a virgin or that I have a boyfriend.

Can you tell me what's wrong with it?

Answer: The white bump is likely smegma. You can read about it and see a photo on the page about Clitoral Adhesions in the Health section.

You may have had an allergic reaction to the condom, if this is the first time you used one. Any lubricant or spermicides coating the condom may have caused an allergic reaction too. If you were not properly lubricated his manual stimulation could have irritated your vulva. Do not apply anything to your vulva like deodorants and perfumes.

Only rinse your vulva with plain water and wear loose fitting clothing. Wearing a dress or skirt with nothing underneath would be best if that is possible. Do not wear anything to bed that will come in contact with your vulva, wear just a nightshirt. You want any excess moisture to evaporate away, not be trapped by clothing. You also do not want your clothing rubbing your vulva. Do not use soap on your vulva, it can irritate it and dry the skin out. Please see the page about hygiene.

If things do not improve in a couple days, please see a doctor. The doctor will not be able to tell that you are sexually active unless you tell them. You should tell them just in case you contracted a sexually transmitted disease. The doctor should not pass on any personal information to your mother.