The Truth About Size

Yes Virginia, size does matter.* This having been said, one must not forget that there is more than one size. If you have not already guessed, we are talking about the size of man's penis, or a woman's dildo. A question that is frequently asked is whether bigger is better. The answer for that question is sometimes bigger is better while other times smaller is better.

The size a woman desires or prefers is often dependent on her present situation or the activity she is contemplating. If she is considering vaginal intercourse for the first time any penis is probably going to look large and intimidating. If a woman is contemplating anal intercourse she may make her decision based on the size her partner's penis. If she wants to orally stimulate her partner she may prefer a small penis because a large one either causes her to choke or makes her jaw muscles ache. A woman's preference is therefore not necessarily set in stone.

Is there a physical bases for some women to prefer a large penis? The answer is yes. This has little or nothing to do with the length of a penis but with its girth. A large penis is often large around besides being long. While men may pride themselves on the length of their penis, its circumference is likely of more importance to a woman. A woman's sensitive genital tissues are located around the perimeter of the vagina. These sensitive genital tissues are her clitoris, and its outlying structures, the urethra and urethral and perineal sponges. Even a woman's G-Spot, if she has one, is located within a couple inches of the vaginal orifice. The more pressure that is exerted on these structures the more enjoyable intercourse MAY be for a woman. On the other hand, pounding on a woman's cervix may not be pleasant at all for her and can be painful for some women.

As a result of the desire to be filled, a vaginal ache, that many women experience during sexual arousal, some do desire and enjoy the sensation of having something large stretch and fill their vagina. The larger the object, the more filled and satisfied they feel. This is why some women do choose to use large dildos and engaging in vaginal fisting. As a result of experimentation and experience some women find their orgasms are more intense when their vagina is filled to capacity. They likely start out with a single finger or a small dildo but find they do not fulfill their desire to be filled as well as something larger. In these cases even the largest of penises is not large enough to fulfill their needs.

Some women prefer a large penis for psychological reasons. Since a man with a large penis is often seen as more manly, the woman who attracts his attention is often seen as more womanly and desirable. A woman may perceive her position in society is better if her partner is well endowed. She may feel she has bested her peers. A woman may find the sight of a large penis visually stimulating as well. Many women are fascinated with penises, not because they necessarily want one, but because they do not have one of their own. Their fascination often has nothing to do with size. Many women enjoy seeing and feeling their partner's penis becoming erect in their hand or mouth. Some mothers of infant and young boys love their son's little penis and like to look at and even touch it. (This is likely the result of curiosity more than sexual desire. It may also be the result of socialized admiration of the penis. In addition, she may not be able to explore her adult male partner's genitals so thoroughly.) Some lesbians are also fascinated with penises. They may not desire their partner to have a real one, but some do seek out male partners to fulfill their curiosity. One must keep in mind the brain is after all our largest sex organ.

Other women prefer a small penis. As mentioned above a large penis can cause a woman to experience discomfort when performing fellatio. A woman may desire to perform fellatio immensely but finds it is too taxing when her partner has an averaged sized penis, let alone a large one. The physical discomfort outweighs the emotional pleasure and benefit. Some women will only orally stimulate their partner's penis when it is flaccid or in the process of becoming erect. A large penis can also cause discomfort during anal and vaginal intercourse. A woman who enjoys anal intercourse may prefer a small penis as it is easier for her to accommodate within her body. Women who are afraid of losing some of their vaginal muscle tone, commonly called becoming "loose" may not want a partner with a large penis. As can be seen, larger is not always better.

Some argue that size does not matter. If this is the case, what happens to all those giant sized dildos sold in adult novelty stores? Do adult mail order businesses stock a product that does not sell? While some of these are bought as gag gifts for soon to be married women, many likely get used for their intended purpose. In Dickinson's book Atlas of Human Sex Anatomy there are illustrations that depict old dildos that are up to three inches (7.6cm) in diameter. I think simple curiosity compels many women to seek out objects larger than your average sized penis. It may be the rumors of the increased pleasures that pique her curiosity. For some it is the challenge of finding out if they can really insert something so large into their vagina, a means of testing the limits of their body. While it is curiosity that motivates them, pleasure is what keeps their attention, at least for some women.

In the end does the size of a man's penis really matter to his partner? The answer is no, at least for the vast majority of women. Most women do not choose a partner based solely on the size of his penis. What you have to keep in mind is, if women were only interested in the size of a man's penis, it would be less taxing on them to just go out and buy, or create, a dildo of the size they desired. Very few women place penis size on the top of their list when choosing a partner, even those who prefer a large or small penis for physical or psychological reasons.

* For those not familiar with American movies, there is a movie about Christmas in which the statement, "Yes Virginia, there is a Santa Claus." is made. This movie is based on a letter that appeared in The New York Sun in 1897.

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